Welcome, dear readers!

My name is Lisa Ram and I am here to share my life struggles and successes with you. We can learn together and help each other in our path through life.

I have benefited in the past from reading blogs, and I feel less lonely when I can relate to other people’s experiences. I have found that there are many creative solutions to everyday problems that I could not have come up with on my own. This is why sharing is a good idea and we all benefit from it.

Let me tell you a bit about me. I am 39 years old and I am from Costa Rica. However, I am temporarily living in Canada while I pursue a PhD in Archaeology.

It has taken me this long to study because I have been sidetracked a lot. There is no one to blame for that, really. I tend to overthink and self-sabotage sometimes. I grew up hearing that I could grow up to be whatever I wanted, but the problem was that I liked a bit about everything, but wasn’t passionate about anything in particular. It has taken me decades to figure out what I want (technically, I am still figuring it out).

I occasionally perform as a teaching assistant and as a university professor, mostly in the fields of anthropology and archaeology. I specialize in Central America, in the topics of Precolumbian ceramics, ancient migration, and multiethnic society formation. Did I put you to sleep yet?


Example of what I work with on a regular basis

It was not until I confronted a  life-threatening illness that I gave myself permission to try out new things I had always been curious about. I had always been afraid to fail and believed that I had to please others. Since failure never pleased anyone, I tended to avoid art and writing, but my heart would always take me back to them.

Do not get me wrong, old habits die hard. I still tend to put other people’s feelings before my own, but I am also better at acknowledging what I need.

Breast cancer taught me that I like encouraging others to experience the freedom that “failing” has given me. I enjoy drawing, but I am not good at it yet. However, I know that I need it in my life. I don’t have as much time now to dedicate to arts and crafts as I did during active treatment, but I try to sketch every now and then.

Another activity I like is writing. I have written some poetry in the past (you know, the kind that is dark and sad, written while you experience teenage angst). Last year, I overcame my fear of failing once again, and I joined Nanowrimo (National Novel Writing Month). I managed to write a very rough draft of a novel that had been in the making, in my head, for a long time. I do not know if I will get back to it, but I did enjoy the experience. It gave me a chance to try out my author persona, and I liked it. It is in part why I decided that I could write this blog.

Reading is another one of my passions. I read fiction mostly; YA, Sci-fi, historical fiction, suspense, mystery, literary fiction. But sometimes I might pick up some non-fiction as well. I also like to participate in reading challenges and readathons (if you like these as well, make sure you follow me on Twitter).

I also like animals and have had quite a number of pets during my life. Cats mostly, but also turtles, dogs and quite a few fish. I do not mind being a cat enthusiast (a.k.a. cat lady).

If you think there is anything in my life experience that could be of value to you, do not hesitate to contact me. I do not mind talking about my cancer experience. I also know quite a lot about a student’s life, and I have some helpful insights from a professor’s perspective as well.

After you have learned this much about me, are you ready to join me in dealing with life struggles? I hope you overcome your fear of being vulnerable by commenting on the posts you relate to, be it that you offer advice, ask something, or offer an example from your life experience.

I am a native Spanish speaker, so do not be shy and post in Spanish as well if you want.

I also accept constructive criticism, since English is my second language. This is also just my first attempt at writing digital content to a wide audience.

Just make sure you are kind and respectful. I promise to always be kind and respectful in return.

P.S.: It is ok to just lurk around as well! Make sure you subscribe so you can always find your way back.